I get it, under the wrong circumstances, there can be a vulgarity to all of this, However, I put my mind at ease in understanding that this hobby is really for me and me alone. And by putting such considerable thought into the tiny aspects of what appeals to my individual in all of this, the mental and emotional exercise is calming and provides a goal of sorts. It becomes a form of meditation and reflection. Just like appreciating anything with nuance, I guess.
But what do I know? It is what you make it.