Mohannad (aka Riddler)
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A very interesting subject indeed
Dec 15, 2017,00:49 AM
I agree with most of the posts here and would like to share my tidbits
I think we have to consider what is the environment we're in to begin with. Are we sharing with other like minded ppl in "any type of interest" or are we sharing with ppl that are most times not very much interested in our hobby whatever it is
I've been through this myself and I would like to share an example of a story I mention to ppl sometimes but my intention isn't bragging but rather to highlight a different point but I notice that the reception of the story is deferent and sometimes I need to reinstate the point I'm actually trying to convey
My story is that I was in New York with my wife in 2012 when hurricane Sandy hit and as you remember Manhattan was half crippled if not fully for the first day or two anyways we were staying at a hotel on park ave and 29th and there was no electricity or water and we were at the 14th floor so to cut it short we changed the hotel and stayed at another hotel in a less impacted area.
After checking in we were very hungry and wanted to eat some decent food so we looked around and saw that Cipriani was open and wanted to have lunch there. We both looked like two homeless ppl but we didn't get a chance to change or even think about it before we ate something.
As we entered the restaurant was empty of customers so I asked for a table for two. I was told that it was fully booked so I tried to convince the guy that it will be a quick lunch and would turn the table rather fast before it was needed. Didn't work. Then the manager was walking and asked if he could assist I told him we just wanted a table for two for a quick lunch but he also politely stated that couldn't do we decided to leave. But then I noticed his patek perpetual he was wearing and complemented him and even said nice (gave the reference ) you have there. He was very surprised and I showed him my wrist and I had at the time an my RM10 on so he was very shocked coz as I said we looked like complete bums and I had that on and knew what he had on just from looking. He then asked us to follow him and gave us probably the best table in the house.
My point here of course was to imply that looks do deceive and also creat an illusion we were rejected based on our looks and yet we were "accepted" also based on what I had on me or "looks"
But when I share this story it most times gets lost in translation and is received as a bit snobiness or showing off but my intention is far from that completely
I'm sure my story here is received in the proper manner but outside of our community perception varies drastically and yet we have the same mindset attitude with all
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Sharing versus showing off
By: ThomasM : December 13th, 2017-05:11
Hi, I have long said that what most of us do here is share, not show off. To me, there is a critical difference. But I acknowledge that to some others, they may not see a difference. Many years ago I went to a networking party with a "little sister" - our...
I believe there is a difference...
By: KMII : December 13th, 2017-05:45
But in order to tell it, one needs to be on the 'inside'. If you have two people passionate about something and a third who is not, it is easy for the third to get the 'showing off' impression. If all three are into it, this is less likely to be gotten er...
They are the same physical act
By: TheMadDruid : December 13th, 2017-05:46
whether it be in person or online-showing something and talking about it, or explaining it/discussing a topic so as to allow another the knowledge and benefit of your expertise. The difference between sharing and showing-off is in the manner of the presen...
My two cents.
By: vincman1123 : December 14th, 2017-18:23
I believe it is entirely based on your intent. You cannot control how the recipient reacts, but if your intent is to share and educate, then I believe how it is perceived is a secondary concern. Be true to your heart.
I used to say and believe that...
By: ThomasM : December 14th, 2017-21:36
And in fact raised my kids with that as well. Hi, Vincman, I agree with you, 100%. But though we can say and believe that we know the truth, what other people perceive is not important. Except that it is, as it will then influence how they interact with y...
agreed on all points! π
By: ThomasM : December 13th, 2017-15:46
hi Joe, I hope we as a community can give the benefit of the doubt rather than be tightly strung to assume the worst. rather someone who doesnt belong chooses to leave rather than be pushed out, though the latter is admittedly sometimes necessary I rememb...
Thomas, I think our next local GTG should be at Humblebrags restaurant
By: AnthonyTsai : December 13th, 2017-17:07
There's a Humblebrags restaurant that I've eatten at before The burger there isn't too bad. Yelp link below: And to answer your question - yes there's a difference between sharing and showing off. But sometimes some people are so "tainted" that they see ...
Bahahahahahahaha π and yes, it is unfortunate when skepticism
By: ThomasM : December 13th, 2017-17:26
Slippery slides to cynicism...then bad intent and evil doers are everywhere (instead of somewhere... Someone once said that the soul dies a bit, when all you see is evil and negativity and darkness... Which is why I coined, "pursuing perfection in an impe...
Great philosophical debate TM
By: watch-guy.com : December 13th, 2017-19:53
It is often difficult to define the difference between sharing and showing off but it is easier to know when it is happening We have a hobby that ranges from high end crazy price pieces to $100 watches and this phenomenon can occur anywhere along the spec...
Julian, I agree and hence my OP (original post)
By: ThomasM : December 14th, 2017-18:03
1. We should always try to be aware with how we are coming across. Not obsessively, but certainly empathetically. It always seemed a bit arrogant to me when I hear, "that's (not) what I meant" (so it's your problem for not getting it correctly.) 2. A grea...
There is no real way to be certain...
By: ThomasM : December 14th, 2017-18:07
And often our organic enthusiasm is misperceived as showing off. Hi, Ron, Many times the crux, imho, lies in the relationship between the parties in the interaction. It is difficult to share if one of the parties is not interested in "sharing" ie giving a...
A very interesting subject indeed
By: Mohannad (aka Riddler) : December 15th, 2017-00:49
I agree with most of the posts here and would like to share my tidbits I think we have to consider what is the environment we're in to begin with. Are we sharing with other like minded ppl in "any type of interest" or are we sharing with ppl that are most...
Very interesting story, Riddler, thanks for sharing it!
By: ThomasM : December 15th, 2017-01:39
Your story touches on several points, including the ones in the sub thread just above, that though ultimately we are our own judges, but how we are perceived does inevitably influence our lives whether we want it to or not; rightly, fairly, or not. Which ...
Interesting reading
By: Fla25 : December 15th, 2017-03:01
Dear TM, it's one of the very first post I reas on this site (I'm a new user). I have to say your opinion is very interesting, I think there is a difference indeed, and it depends on where you are sharing/showing off something and with whom. I also think ...
Welcome!
By: ThomasM : December 15th, 2017-11:36
Dear F, Welcome to our community! I agree with you, and hopefully, while you will find that most of us here love to share but showing off, not so much, we still try to be polite and civil to all. Looking forward to learning more about you and your interes...
Hi TM
By: Fla25 : December 17th, 2017-10:42
Thank you for the welcome! I have read about this forum in ablogtowatch and I have to say, as soon as I saw it, I said βthis is exactly what I was looking for as a watch enthusiast