you have it all good about the setting of the date.
As for the use of the winder, forget it... If you don't use your watch for a while, put in in a pouch, and basta.
Like you, your watch needs some rest, and I don't think that letting it run 24 / 24, 365 / 365 is a good thing for your watch.
But I really don't like winders...
Best,
Nicolas

I have an Orbita with the foam piece which contracts or expands to hold most watches. I would be suprised if this doesn't work. can't you also use a different hole in the strap for the winder?
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Patek is my only automatic watch, even so, I don't put it on the winder for the same reason others have said here.