Spousal Influence on Watch Collecting Decisions
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Spousal Influence on Watch Collecting Decisions

By rnaden · Jul 18, 2017 · 37 replies
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Wanted to float this out there for your comment and input. In our strange and peculiar hobby of collecting watches that we wear, we (at least I) are influenced by many factors when choosing a watch. It could well be branding, status, movement, watchmaker etc., and I think no matter which way we deal

Wanted to float this out there for your comment and input.

In our strange and peculiar hobby of collecting watches that we wear, we (at least I) are influenced by many factors when choosing a watch. It could well be branding, status, movement, watchmaker etc., and I think no matter which way we deal, one or more of these factors do come into play in us making our choices. These same factors play in our decisions to keep a watch or to eventually let it go.

I'm probably more influenced by wearability, some level of exclusivity, the cost of ownership and versatility. Also, in the last 2 years, I've been trimming my collection down to a manageable number to be worn and loved....and all was and has been well. Until a few days ago....

Was out with my wife looking at some watches and then she made this comment, I think your watch looks old and doesn't suit you too well. While I'd like to think I'm a man who makes my decisions and stick by them, this comment now is making me seriously consider selling that particular watch, which BTW, is one I took a long while to consider before pulling the trigger. I'll attribute this to a probable reason that she knows me and my lifestyle better than anyone else, but even then, I'm beginning to think that maybe I'm going mad to even be moved by a simple statement like that.

Any of you have this same issue or predicament? How do we limit the extent of influence of these outside forces?

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This message has been edited by MTF on 2017-08-01 02:45:44
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Esharp
Jul 18, 2017

You're not going mad, Richard. On the contrary - this shows you 1) have good communication with your other half and 2) a reasonable approach to your hobby. For what it's worth, I am similarly swayed by Mrs E. "honey, what you think of this?" "Oh, no, it's got X problem" "hmmm...no! You're wrong! Oh wait. Actually you have a point." Well, that's how it usually goes with us... Best E.

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Vcf.camper
Jul 18, 2017

It could be that your taste has somehow changed over time without you realizing. Maybe just small and gradual changes, but they happen such that the watch (and for other people, myself included, dressing style, hobbies and interests, ideologies and even political views) no longer fits well within. Admittedly we buy watches accepting certain compromises, there's no be all end all watch, and the mrs comment made you look back and realized what had been overlooked. I wouldn't think too much about i

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MTF
Jul 19, 2017

If you still like the tired old watch, it 's amazing how much a new accessory can change things. Use the trick learned from ladies when they change their hair or lip colour or shoes and handbag. Give the old girl one last chance (the watch and not the wife) Change the strap or bracelet and see what she says. If not positive, use it as an excuse to get a new watch. ........cool! Regards MTF

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chippyfly
Jul 19, 2017

Allow me to share this harmony. A few years ago on impulse I saw and bought at auction against very little bidding opposition a circa 1985 men's Cartier Tank, which has a good quartz movement, attractive dial and case all in amazingly good condition as a "Christmas stocking filler" for my wife to increase her quite limited choice of watch wearing. I put on a suitable brand-new strap. 1980's Cartier men's watches were small compared to today (although there is one of similar size on Cartier's cur

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JToddH
Jul 19, 2017

to have a wife that appreciates your passion and have her own opinions on the subject. I too have a wife who supports and encourages my love of watches. That said, I certainly respect her (my wife's) opinion and enjoy sharing dialogue on the subject. Last thing I want to do is dismiss her concerns and lose her support. Sometimes, it's also nice to see ourselves through others' eyes. If this piece is significant to YOU, I'm sure she'll understand. ...and as Luis6 pointed out, she'll probably even

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Broxi
Jul 19, 2017

I make my own decisions by listening to my head and heart and rarely seek the thoughts of my wife. That said if she doesn't like my choice is time in the collection is limited

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