Rosneathian
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You and your spouse are acting with wisdom and foresight. I respect that.
Aug 03, 2022,20:29 PM
It's perfectly normal to become attached to habit; habit allows us to string together past, present at future. But as you say it may not serve our interests well when circumstances change or when confronted by something unforeseen. Holding on to things can be comforting but after they have served their purpose they can at worst become liabilities. I'm somewhere in the middle, where I would like to trade in some things that I like for other things that I like more.
I've always understood that life's choices require resolve and resilience; resolve means holding on to things that matter (an idea, a person, a thing). Resilience necessarily means giving stuff up and yielding a little to changing currents.
This is why I chose the word "navigation" to try and explain the current exercise. How does one balance resolve and resilience as one moves through the stages of life? There's plenty of precedent - your own example is one - but there's never any blueprint because each of our circumstances is unique. This makes the choices ahead exciting to say the least: there will be much to learn. I also admit that there is a certain satisfaction for me that I'll be 'buying in to less.'